Dating regaining trust
I know you are going to get scared and lose it from time to time, and I will try to support you and/or act with compassion when that happens. Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher.And I know that ultimately, my well-being is up to me."This a big statement — a real commitment. I understand that sometimes you're scared; I get that you've been hurt. But I want you to you that no matter what, you are going to be OK. She's the author of the e Book: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy).
That’s why I recommend you build your trust in yourself first (read more here), then build your trust in friendships (read more here), before trusting someone in a committed relationship.(You can find out if you’re still in the Divorce Pits by taking the assessment here.)Once you’re out of the Pits, you’re cleared to date.There are all kinds of ways you can meet people to date and I’ll save a discussion of that for some other time.We have all suffered in some way (actually, we have all suffered in very similar ways), and we have all felt pain in relationships. I say this because it's comforting to realize that we're not alone. ) We've all been hurt, and we're all trying to avoid that happening again.Usually the way we try to avoid being hurt in relationships is by holding-off on trusting until we know we are safe. Asking someone to "earn our trust" often means we are asking them not to make any mistakes and not to cause us to feel uncomfortable feelings. Unfortunately guarantees are not found in relationships (computers come with guarantees — not people).