Put yourself out there dating
What they don’t think about is that just going on five or six really fun dates where each time you go a little further physically is totally enticing to men, but it doesn’t mean anything in terms of the man’s interest or ability to make a commitment.
It can get even more confusing if the man has been saying things like, “I see myself getting married and settling down sometime in the next few years.” The women sometimes misinterpret this as having a talk about his goals and interests pertaining to them specifically.
If he isn’t pursuing you the way you want, date others who will!
But don’t tell him to pursue you and then feel surprised when you’re both sensing the awkward tension that will inevitably arise.
Telling a man to pursue you is like telling him how to lead.
By doing so, you are actually leading — and depriving yourself of what you’re really craving.
The good news is that by focusing on positive things, the mirror neuron circle will work in a positive way for both of you.
OK, I’m being a little facetious here, but I do see a lot of clients who rule out potential matches over things that are actually really minor in the context of lifelong partnership — whether because of a height that’s less than ideal, political views that don’t match perfectly, or even a grasp of the hottest nightclubs.Don’t put yourself or your date down, even in jest, and remember: First dates aren’t the time to open up about your abusive boss, mounting credit card bills, or your psycho roommate.One more how-to on letting a date see you in your best light: Before the date, scan a newspaper so you can talk about current events like art exhibits, local news, or whatever piques your interest.They aren’t depressed — this is just their normal way of presenting themselves. There are all kinds of reasons why someone could come to present themselves in a way that others experience as closed off.Maybe they’re insecure and take on a dismissive air because they’re afraid of being rejected, for example.