Rating and dating
His study of Penn State undergraduates detailed a "dating and rating" system based on very clear standards of popularity.
Men's popularity needed outward material signs: automobile, clothing, fraternity membership, money, etc.
That way you only date people that rate the same as you," Toney explained. "Even twins or best friends will have different internal values."However, Toney points out that men tend to see themselves better than they really are and women see themselves worse than they really are."That's one of the main reasons I wanted to do this book is because women typically judge themselves by their worst qualities," she explained.
"This kind of picks up where 'He's Just No That Into You,' left off."Do people perceive themselves correctly? "We will stand in front of the mirror and search for something we hate before we leave the house.""Whereas men do the exact opposite. I'm great.' And they run out and look for Heidi Klum.
You had to rate in order to date, to date in order to rate.Toney says that Aniston "dates down" a lot." "It's hard in the celebrity world. You're talking about people who most of us would see at perfect tens," Toney explained."Once you get into their world, they really start to see it differently."When it comes to Jon and Kate Gosselin of TLC's "Jon & Kate Plus 8," Toney says she understands why their relationship may be in trouble."I've seen it so many times," she said.By successfully maintaining this cycle, you became popular. So, that is the system in place prior to World War II.After World War II the norms within the dating system began to change.